Comments on: It doesn’t have to be all or nothing http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/ Live What You Love: The tools you need for the life you want Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:07:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Bob and Mel http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-156 Bob and Mel Thu, 14 Aug 2008 19:46:54 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-156 Linda, you are truly an inspiration! And you're so right when you say that everyone has the choice to live what they love. People tell us we're lucky that we can divide our time between Vermont and the Caribbean. Sometimes we just agree and say yes, we're very lucky. But inside we know that it's not about luck at all. We worked hard and continue to work hard to create the life we want. We live passionately and don't regret it for a minute. We're thrilled to hear that you're in the ACT stage of our 5 D.R.E.A.M. steps. And your business hits close to home for us, considering our love for the Caribbean and the fact that we used to have a specialty food company. Congratulations and thanks so much for sharing your story and your progress. We're sure that your success will light a spark for someone else and inspire them to make their own move. Linda, you are truly an inspiration! And you’re so right when you say that everyone has the choice to live what they love. People tell us we’re lucky that we can divide our time between Vermont and the Caribbean. Sometimes we just agree and say yes, we’re very lucky. But inside we know that it’s not about luck at all. We worked hard and continue to work hard to create the life we want. We live passionately and don’t regret it for a minute.

We’re thrilled to hear that you’re in the ACT stage of our 5 D.R.E.A.M. steps. And your business hits close to home for us, considering our love for the Caribbean and the fact that we used to have a specialty food company.

Congratulations and thanks so much for sharing your story and your progress. We’re sure that your success will light a spark for someone else and inspire them to make their own move.

]]> By: Bob and Mel http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-155 Bob and Mel Thu, 14 Aug 2008 19:33:23 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-155 Nancy, do you realize how wonderful it is that you're so passionate about acting? We hear from so many people who have no idea what they want to do. You're already on your way and that's really fantastic! You've also successfully identified specific parts of your life that absolutely must change. Health problems due to stress are just not acceptable. You've GOT to figure this out! Why don't you set aside some time to talk openly and honestly with your husband? Maybe go for a long walk or even go somewhere for a weekend with the sole purpose of coming up with some options. Take a copy of "Changing Your Course" with you so you can do some of the exercises together. That will help get you started. As far as the economy goes, ask yourself if you might be using it as an excuse. If gas prices were cut in half and the mortgage crisis didn't exist, would you be making your move? Nancy, do you realize how wonderful it is that you’re so passionate about acting? We hear from so many people who have no idea what they want to do. You’re already on your way and that’s really fantastic!

You’ve also successfully identified specific parts of your life that absolutely must change. Health problems due to stress are just not acceptable. You’ve GOT to figure this out!

Why don’t you set aside some time to talk openly and honestly with your husband? Maybe go for a long walk or even go somewhere for a weekend with the sole purpose of coming up with some options. Take a copy of “Changing Your Course” with you so you can do some of the exercises together. That will help get you started.

As far as the economy goes, ask yourself if you might be using it as an excuse. If gas prices were cut in half and the mortgage crisis didn’t exist, would you be making your move?

]]> By: Bob and Mel http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-154 Bob and Mel Thu, 14 Aug 2008 19:21:55 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-154 Anne, you made us laugh right out loud! Adopt you, huh? Mmmmmm. We'll give it some thought. And honestly, there's nothing at all to be impressed about. We've only been able to accomplish so much by being stubborn. Our passions and our values are what motivate us. You can look at life the same way, if you choose to do so. We're not saying it's easy but it's definitely a matter of choice. Don't give up!!! Take one teeny, tiny step at a time and things will change. Please keep in touch and let us know what you're up to. And again, please accept our sincere apologies for not responding sooner. We feel terrible! Anne, you made us laugh right out loud! Adopt you, huh? Mmmmmm. We’ll give it some thought. And honestly, there’s nothing at all to be impressed about. We’ve only been able to accomplish so much by being stubborn. Our passions and our values are what motivate us. You can look at life the same way, if you choose to do so. We’re not saying it’s easy but it’s definitely a matter of choice. Don’t give up!!! Take one teeny, tiny step at a time and things will change. Please keep in touch and let us know what you’re up to. And again, please accept our sincere apologies for not responding sooner. We feel terrible!

]]> By: Bob and Mel http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-153 Bob and Mel Thu, 14 Aug 2008 19:14:03 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-153 We owe everyone an apology for not responding to your posts sooner. We've had a few technical problems and finally figured out what needed to be done. Computers are great - except for the days you want to throw them into the sea. Anyway, please know that we are truly sorry to have been out of touch for a little while and that we really do appreciate your participating on our blog. We owe everyone an apology for not responding to your posts sooner. We’ve had a few technical problems and finally figured out what needed to be done. Computers are great - except for the days you want to throw them into the sea. Anyway, please know that we are truly sorry to have been out of touch for a little while and that we really do appreciate your participating on our blog.

]]> By: Linda Benjamin http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-151 Linda Benjamin Mon, 11 Aug 2008 21:13:12 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-151 Bob and Mel, I shared with you via email my story of faith and trust in my move to the Caribbean years ago. If I had not had the ability to see that we can control our destiny as well as how and where we spend our days, I would not have all that I do today. When I tell people 'my story' thay say how 'lucky' I am. I respond gently that everyone has the choice to decide these elements of their lives. However, when I look at the crossroad of where I am today in terms of my job, it is again time to review my 'passion'. By Leaning on your strategy of DREAM, I am in the stages of ACT. I have started a business to share my passion of all things Caribbean. Showcasing terrific Pantry items various islands have to offer. It hss rejuvenated my spirit to be able to get started on my business. Making the 'To Do' list and then checking items off. It is very satisfying. Taking the small steps while still working at has allowed me to see that it doesn't have to be all or nothing. The most exciting part is to be able to see that sooner rather than later my passion will be my full time job! Thanks for your coaching and very workable strategies in Changing Courses. Best regards, Linda Bob and Mel,
I shared with you via email my story of faith and trust in my move to the Caribbean years ago. If I had not had the ability to see that we can control our destiny as well as how and where we spend our days, I would not have all that I do today. When I tell people ‘my story’ thay say how ‘lucky’ I am. I respond gently that everyone has the choice to decide these elements of their lives.

However, when I look at the crossroad of where I am today in terms of my job, it is again time to review my ‘passion’. By Leaning on your strategy of DREAM, I am in the stages of ACT. I have started a business to share my passion of all things Caribbean. Showcasing terrific Pantry items various islands have to offer. It hss rejuvenated my spirit to be able to get started on my business. Making the ‘To Do’ list and then checking items off. It is very satisfying. Taking the small steps while still working at has allowed me to see that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. The most exciting part is to be able to see that sooner rather than later my passion will be my full time job! Thanks for your coaching and very workable strategies in Changing Courses.
Best regards,
Linda

]]> By: Nancy http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-150 Nancy Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:53:33 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-150 Hello Bob and Mel, First of all, I would like to say how much I enjoy your postings and website. I am looking forward to reading your books. I am in my mid 50s and work as an actress and a bookkeeper. I am very unhappy at my bookkeeping job - like the people, hate the job. I adore acting. Even though I have only been pursuing this for a few years, I have already been in 5 movies, a TV show, a video, and a TV commercial. The work comes in spurts. Sometimes, I am very busy, sometimes, not so busy. I have been trying to combine both jobs but it isn't working. I am missing out on alot of acting work because of my bookkeeping job. Also I am having health problems due to all the stress I am under trying to juggle both jobs. I should add that my husband and I maintain two residences which adds to the stress load. I keep telling my husband, I want to get down to 1 job and 1 home. Still I am afraid to take the plunge because of how bad the economy is and also how unstable the acting business is. My husband and I do okay financially so I can afford to quit. Still I am afraid to take the plunge. Any thoughts? Thank you Hello Bob and Mel,

First of all, I would like to say how much I enjoy your postings and website. I am looking forward to reading your books.

I am in my mid 50s and work as an actress and a bookkeeper. I am very unhappy at my bookkeeping job - like the people, hate the job.

I adore acting. Even though I have only been pursuing this for a few years, I have already been in 5 movies, a TV show, a video, and a TV commercial. The work comes in spurts. Sometimes, I am very busy, sometimes, not so busy.

I have been trying to combine both jobs but it isn’t working. I am missing out on alot of acting work because of my bookkeeping job.

Also I am having health problems due to all the stress I am under trying to juggle both jobs. I should add that my husband and I maintain two residences which adds to the stress load. I keep telling my husband, I want to get down to 1 job and 1 home. Still I am afraid to take the plunge because of how bad the economy is and also how unstable the acting business is.

My husband and I do okay financially so I can afford to quit. Still I am afraid to take the plunge. Any thoughts? Thank you

]]> By: Carnival of Self-Mastery - August 5, 2008 http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-148 Carnival of Self-Mastery - August 5, 2008 Tue, 05 Aug 2008 14:15:34 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-148 [...] and Melinda Blanchard presents It doesn't have to be all or nothing posted at Live What You Love, saying, "Life change doesn't have to turn your entire life [...] [...] and Melinda Blanchard presents It doesn't have to be all or nothing posted at Live What You Love, saying, "Life change doesn't have to turn your entire life [...]

]]> By: Trina http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-147 Trina Mon, 04 Aug 2008 19:36:49 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-147 Thank you for the reply Bob and Mel and the suggestion. We have already mentioned our concerns to the people concerned in the school but all they can say is that the corporate people decides and there is nothing we can do but follow. I just bought your new book " Changing Your Course " and I will keep you posted on how I am doing with my decision to change course. Thank you for the reply Bob and Mel and the suggestion. We have already mentioned our concerns to the people concerned in the school but all they can say is that the corporate people decides and there is nothing we can do but follow. I just bought your new book ” Changing Your Course ” and I will keep you posted on how I am doing with my decision to change course.

]]> By: Anne Schwartz http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-146 Anne Schwartz Sat, 02 Aug 2008 20:56:38 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-146 Will you guys adopt me?!, (you probably get that all the time).. or hire me? - I'm just a little impressed.. I've been reading your book.. to the beach.. feel like I've walked into a movie, finding you online. So what if the top four are all pretty much on the bottom? You wouldn't guess it to meet me. But I'm struggling. I've read a lot over the years. And, I'll look for your book and keep reading! Thanks for being tangible. Will you guys adopt me?!, (you probably get that all the time).. or hire me? - I’m just a little impressed..

I’ve been reading your book.. to the beach.. feel like I’ve walked into a movie, finding you online.

So what if the top four are all pretty much on the bottom? You wouldn’t guess it to meet me. But I’m struggling. I’ve read a lot over the years. And, I’ll look for your book and keep reading! Thanks for being tangible.

]]> By: Bob and Mel http://livewhatyoulove.com/2008/07/28/it-doesnt-have-to-be-all-or-nothing/#comment-144 Bob and Mel Wed, 30 Jul 2008 19:06:38 +0000 http://livewhatyoulove.com/?p=156#comment-144 Thanks for your comment, Tim! Thanks for your comment, Tim!

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